Disclaimer 1: Resemblance to any person, living or dead or to any actual events is purely coincidental 😉
I am choosing June to write this blog post because this is supposedly not the wedding season and my post would hopefully not directly or indirectly influence people who want to get married immediately ;-).
To begin, till the time you decide to get married you will meet all kinds of people who would tell you the pros and cons of getting married. People will tell you why it is absolutely necessary for you to get married. You will also meet people, albeit few, who will tell you that you can enjoy your life even if you choose not to get married. Finally, with a lot of help from your friends and family you decide that you want to bell the cat and get married. And then, you look forward to the ‘D-day’ and try and enjoy the customs and traditions, as much as you can. While all this happens, and before you realize it, you are married!!!
Months 1 & 2 (or as people would say, the ‘honeymoon phase’) – It’s all new and you are excited to experience it all. It’s a different feeling. You are trying to understand a lot of things at one go. There is too much buzz around you which doesn’t allow you to analyse things/situations. You come across to people as this very happy bride/groom who has always wanted to get married.
Months 3 & 4 (I call it the ‘happy realization phase’ ;-)) – This is the time when the husband and the wife start doing ‘real’ things together – like grocery shopping, and taking decisions about regular stuff at home. And that’s when you start realizing that you are two different people, with different opinions, likes and dislikes etc. You realize that you are two different individuals with very different styles of dealing with issues and situations and it’s not as if the person can change overnight. In the first few months you are this very positive and ‘in love’ partner who only notices and focuses more on the likes, the similarities, and love… And during this phase you realize that managing a marriage is not an easy task. Sigh!!
Month 5 (the real battle starts, and hence I call it the ‘bull fight phase’) – By the time you reach the fifth month you are over analyzing everything! You sometimes feel that’s it not easy remaining married and you want to just leave everything (and go to the Himalayas maybe). You are mostly at loggerheads with your partner. Neither of you wants to give in. So, you may as well, hold on and enjoy the bull fight!! Because winning this match sets the tone for the rest of your married life ;-). Most of the times however, it’s a tie with either/both partners flying the peace flag.
Month 6 (the ‘time-out phase’) – Hurray!!! You are about to cross an important milestone in your married life! By the time you reach the sixth month you are dead-tired with all the over-analysis and bull-fights. You now want to rest a bit and get ready for the next six months before you reach your second and possibly the most important milestone of your life ;-). You are also now aware of the likes and dislikes of your partner and hence you try and be reasonable (possibly because you want the same favour back sometime ;-)). My advice would be to…rest as much as you can, and get ready for the next phase but don’t you quit!!! It’s a fun game after allJ.
Disclaimer 2: The blog post is not intended to hurt anyone’s sentiments. Please feel free to comment or just join in to have a chat!
3 thoughts on “The first 6 months of marriage!!”
Very thoughtful writing I must say! On the verge of completing one year of my marriage and can completely relate to most of the points if not all 🙂
And as suddymoody says – rest as much as you can and never give up! Marriage is indeed a fun game 🤪
Always a pleasure reading your blogs suddymoody so keep writing and keep entertaining!
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Hopefully this documentation will not deter the undecided ones preparing to take the plunge. Believe me the fun just never ends. So get your notepads and just tick off the phases and add on your own unique ones. As always the author enlightens us with her unique underlying humour.
Nicely written, and these are definitely the real facts that relates to everyone but I personally believe we all need to respect each other to make a good relationship and that need a long time (that’s not fix).
As some one said “The relationship between husband and wife should be one of closest friends”